fixed it by shutting off:

modsecurity
fail2ban
firewall

then rebooted server, turned those back on, and it works now.

it is SSL’ing but just killing the formatting, tracing the errors its the css and child theme code that seems to be hard link coded so its not going to work unless I get hands dirty and edit the code.

Will try a test clean install and see on a different domain.

that did it. Thanks!