Hi,
I cannot find the place to make my menu smaller. Like the enfold demo site: http://kriesi.at/themes/enfold/ I am trying to edit my menu, so I is smaller and does not have ‘boxes’ on mouse over.
You should be able to edit that under Enfold->Advanced Styling. Select the Main Menu element there, you can check the Apply only to mouse hover state option to only apply to hover if you like.